Muslim Wedding (Nikah)

Muslim wedding (Nikah) is celebrated on a grand scale for a period of five days. Muslim wedding can be conducted at any convenient time. Wedding ceremonies can be divided into pre - wedding and post wedding celebration.

Wedding Rituals:

Lagan Chair:

When the date of marriage is finalised, cash present is sent to bride's father by groom’s father.

1st and 2nd day ceremonies:

On first day, bride's family members go to groom’s house. and than the groom's go to the other party house, carrying mehndi paste in a plate kids lighten the candle before entering the house, dinner was served and tease song is sung for both bride and groom.

Manjha Ceremony:

On the third day, Manjha celebration take place. The prospective bride is seated on a small square table and anointed with haldi which comes from the groom’s family. For the ceremony bride is suppose to wear yellow clothes. There is lot of singing and dancing to celebrate this ceremony.

Welcome of Barat:

The groom arrives at the wedding venue with a wedding procession consisting of families and friends. A band of musicians play the traditional notes to announce the arrival. The groom shares a drink of sherbat with bride’s brother.

Nikah:

It is on day four, when the actual Muslim nikah or wedding ceremony takes place. Nikah can be conducted at the home of bride or the groom. The nikah is conducted by the presided by the qazi. The qazi appoints two men as witness on groom’s behalf to receive orders from bride’s family. In addition, there is presence of two Walids ( bride and groom’s father ) is also necessary. The bride’s father is required to care and protect her rights and the groom’s father to endorse his right.

In orthodox Muslim communities, the men and women are seated separately in Zenana ( for women's ) and Mardana ( for men ). The maulvi reads selected verses from the Quran and the nikah is completed after (jab -e- qubool). The validity depends on the proposal on one side, usually the groom (jab) acceptance on the other side the bride (qubool).

On the day of the nikah the elder members of the two families decide the mehar. In Muslim wedding Nikah is compulsory amount given by the groom family to the bride. The qazi personally asks the bride if she agrees to marry the groom and accepts the quantum of mehar . Once bride gives her consent the contract is read to the groom. After the groom gives his consent , the nikah nama or marriage contract must be signed by the bride. After nikah nama is signed, the qazi deliver a sermon called khutba consisting of verses from quran which were recited by the prophet and which lay particular emphasis by obligations towards women. The qazi explains the meaning of the verses to the audience with the explanation of the mutual right and duty of the spouse.

Blessing the groom:

After all the wedding ceremonies are over, the groom receives the blessing from the elder women and offers them his salam. The guests pray for the marital blessings for the newly wed couples.

Dinner, Prayers:

Dinner is lavish spread. After dinner, the newlyweds sit together for the first time. Their heads are covered by dupatta while they read prayers under the direction of the maulvi ( priest). The quran is placed between the couple and they are allowed to see each other only through mirror.

Ruksat:

The bride family bids her a tearful farewell before she departs from her family to be with husband at her husband’s house. The bride’s father gives her hand to her husband and tells him to protect her.

Welcome of the bride:

At the groom’s house, the groom’s mother holds the Islamic holy book quran above the head of the newly wed daughter-in-law and she takes her first step inside the house.

Chauthi:

The chauthi is fourth day after the wedding . It is compulsory for the bride to visit the home of her parents on the day.

Valimah:

Valimah is a lavish reception that the groom’s family hosts after the nikah. It is joyous occasion that brings together two families, their relative and friends.